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Do you ever wonder why certain situations trigger you so easily? What if there are negative messages you are believing about yourself that you are not even aware of?

In Episode 3 of the Ever After Podcast, we explore how the lies we believe about ourselves, God, and others in adulthood are often rooted in the painful messages and experiences we absorbed early in childhood. When painful messages from those early years remain unhealed, they can continue resurfacing—affecting our identity, emotions, relationships, and our view of God in ways we may not even realize.

But there is hope for healing.

In this episode, we invite you into a deeper understanding of how these lies were formed and how they can still hold such power over you. As we begin connecting present struggles to past wounds, you’ll discover why healing matters so deeply,  so you can finally experience life as it is without the filter of yesterday’s pain.

Episode Summary

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• why your heart is so essential in your relationship with God
• how your belief system was formed and how that is still impacting you today
• how your past wounding is acted out in the present

Resources Mentioned

• The Sacred Romance: Coming Home to the God Who Pursues Your Heart Updated Edition, by John Eldredge and Brent Curtis
• The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast, Adam Young, 9 Part Warfare Series, Episodes 41-43, 45-47, 54, 59-60,
• Strong Like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move Through Hard Things–And Experience True Flourishing, Dr. Aundi Kolber
• Tin Man Ministries: Jeff Schulte, Hard Wired for Connection
• Healing What You Can’t Erase: Transform Your Mental, Emotional and Spiritual Health, by Christopher Cook

Scriptures

• Proverbs 4:23
• John 8:44
• Proverbs 18:21
• Proverbs 23:7

Key Takeaways:

• The enemy has power over us through the lies we believe.
• Lies agreed to in early childhood as well as early childhood experiences have a profound impact on us as adults, influencing the way we perceive and interpret our identity as well as what happens around us.
• Our brain stores negative messages spoken in emotionally intense moments not as memories, but as felt experiences and can be triggered in adulthood, causing us pain.
• If a parent takes immediate responsibility for harsh words spoken, it is likely not to be remembered negatively by the child.

Connect with Us 

• Email: anita@DiscoverEverAfter.org
• Website: https://discovereverafter.org/
• Instagram: @anitakellycouch
• YouTube: @AnitaKellyCouchEAE